Yes it is quite a long word that falls into every aspect of our lives. Some use it while angry and others use it to gain a political vote, but I use it when someone needs a reality check. We are all guilty for lacking it from time to time, but the times it is noticeably not evident is when someone around us completely disregards it, and it plays a huge role in any relationship.
It can be tough to help someone recognize that they are disrespecting someone and applying their own responsibility onto someone else. The tough part is those of us that this has happened to have a tough time letting the other person know how disrespected they feel because the last thing they want to do is hurt that person's feelings...even though lacking responsibility in a relationship is also a lack of respect for the other person who would/has covered for the slacker in the past. On the other hand this slacker could actually be someone quite egotistical and only care about themselves. Most of you know by now that I don't associate with those kind of folks...the world does not revolve around anyone. We are all just here to live and get by in the best way possible.
Does anyone else ever listen to the radio on their way in to work? Well I flip from station to station, but Russ Parr in the Morning gets my attention most mornings. They cover a broad range of topics. Family drama, Friend drama, Lovers drama, Work drama...
This past week they requested that people call in if they felt that they were being taken advantage of when it came to supporting friends or family. One lady said she supports her man...another said he was supporting his siblings by helping with their kids and bills. Both felt awful when it came to the point of telling those who they were helping the kind of toll it was taking on them and their thoughts of the relationship.
As I continued driving and nodding in agreement of why it is important to step up and say "No, I can't take responsibility for your life" it was the best thing to do to save themselves from anxiety, stress, awkward situations with family, friends, co-workers...you just have to be completely honest and open. Who ever it is passing their responsibility on to you needs to be given that reality check. The response you receive from the slacker may not be all smiles and thank yous but at least you became one person in their life who decided to attempt to set them straight.